Original Qoutes

Below are my personal collections of original quotes,

written in my old scratch book since college days.

These are as i learned all through my life experiences.

Hoping to share them to you,

as I transfer them in here piece by piece during my free time.

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I have enjoyed life when I had nothing,

and have enjoyed it when I had some things.

Truly, enjoying life is not about what I have

but about having someone. - 2/21/2012

How can one succeed if he always look for

obstacles rather than a way out. - 2/20/2012

When it no longer matters what is right or

what it is worth for,

when it is all for the confusing joy,

it is for love. - 2/15/2012

What makes you perfect does not exist . . .

simply because you already are. - 2/6/2012

If success requires doing what is good for yourself,

i would rather choose failure doing

what I believe is good and right. - 1/26/2012

Today I have witnessed pride over professionalism,

must-things over right-things,

position over reason, and the thing is,

it was done by the so-called pious individuals.

But it is still a wonderful world - 1/26/2012

Sometimes our parents forgot that they

should be role models to us.

But it is only sometimes, and always

they remain our parents, and our only one. - 1/5/2012

A new year is just another date.

The people you celebrate with is what makes it

unique and memorable. - 1/1/2012

How grateful I am to have people around

me celebrated for my birth. I must give

them credit by the way I live. - 12/25/2011

Never regret the time you spent

with someone. You will never know

how thankful that someone could be

for spending time with you. - 12/22/2011

I live my life the way

I wanted to experience it. - 11/6/2011

Misinterpretation is not your fault

when you are true with your intention - 10/10/2011

I can laugh alone or cry alone or smile alone

but these emotions are of little meaning when

without having someone to share with. - 10/1/2011

Reward those who are loyal,

not those who are wise betrayer. - 9/9/2011

How dare you took your revenge

not to those who have sinned you

but to those whom you see has no revenge. - 8/8/2011

Lead not because you wanted to

but because they needed you to. - 8/1/2011

A true personal vendetta is a fate

even destiny cannot alter. - 7/25/2011

I made mistakes and that makes me human

but it does not mean I am doing

just mistakes all the time. - 6/30/2011

Do not rush.

Beautiful things are frozen.

Brilliant ideas are idle. - 5/21/2011

Be thankful for the people around you.

Whether you like it or not, they all conspire

for your success. - 5/5/2011

When I tell you a lie, don not burden me with

guilt by believing it. - 5/1/2011

More often, the person who do a lot of things

gets rewarded than those who deliver a lot of things.

It is a sad reality. - 4/5/2011

Do not practice on graying out your choices to lower

your standards, create one that fits with it. - 3/24/2011

A position is just as good as the organization

who acknowledge it. Never ever forget how temporal is

an organization. - 2/2/2011

What would it feel like to live forever? (Unedited)

I wonder what it would feel if you live forever. It would probably be an ageless one, with limitless chances, countless birthdays, parties, friends, and celebrations. You can study forever, and transfer to different companies, and hmmm work forever?

For some part of my life, there were chances that I stayed in a hotel for a month, three months, and even up to six months. These hotels mostly have free breakfast buffets or meals, though some did not include those privileges. For those that do have free meals, it would make me excited everyday, looking forward for the meals served for the day. On these meals, I would also meet other hotel guests. On my first days on those meals, everyone was new to me. But after one or two weeks, I would be able remember and familiarized their faces that were there on my first days and then also I would realized some were gone already, and some are new guests that have just arrived after me. As I stayed longer, I would be able to befriend other long-staying guests. For some that does not stayed so long, they would just be acquaintances, some familiar faces you will know. These are the usual situations until me or some of my befriended guests have to leave the hotel. If I leave the hotel first, I would feel sad and beginning to miss these new-found as the day for checkout gets nearer, and especially on the day when I have to say goodbye. The bad thing is when I have to leave on weekdays or early morning where my friends are either at work or still sleeping. The worst thing is when I forgot to tell them yesterday evening or the day before when you meet at the hallway or dine together the other week that today is my day of checkout, and so it would mean no goodbyes are being said.

The situation would be different if I stayed in a hotel longer like three to six months. I would meet some friends, spend time with them, explore the city on weekends, and chat with them as if we know each that long. The loneliness of having no one to talk to probably made us, long-staying guests, long for each other comfort and accompaniment. But when each of these friends would have to leave, it gets sad, because we know that we won’t be seeing each other again. Some I have spent with the previous nights for farewell parties, some just disappeared on the next day without saying goodbyes, some had already left several days before I noticed that I you did not see them in the breakfast buffet or on weekends anymore. It gets sadder, and the feeling of having missed them gets piled up as I saw them one by one left, and some not having said any goodbyes. The memories they had left will haunt me when I am left alone, especially when I would have another of those meals where I became used of enjoying with them. In those times I would also hope I could also leave the hotel soon. But I have to stay there for another month or so. And then I see again some new guests, befriended them, and then watched them or not be able to notice them left. Yet the sadness and missing and memory travels would have the same cycle all over again. Until it is time for me to checkout, and leave the hotel, and say my goodbyes to the friends that I would be leaving behind.

The goodbyes of leaving are always sad. But it only lasts for a short while. The excitement of having to move on and to meet new challenges, looking forward for new chapter, and the thought of going home is far overwhelming.

The feeling of being left behind, and witness my loved ones and friends bid me their goodbyes would leave me broken and sad. It would not be the passing, but it would be both the happy and sad memories that they have left behind, haunting in me.

Living in this world is like living in a hotel. Some stayed in a classy suit, and some are sharing in small and cheap rooms. Some stayed quite for a while, and some stayed that far too long. But this world is not our home, it is so temporary, and we know it. The only difference between a hotel and this world is that we both have the same home, and someday we will have to checkout and go home, and see each other in our final home with our Creator. To live forever in this world is to be left behind forever, and forever longing and seeking for the time go home. How sad would it be to be waved goodbye as we witness the one we loved left us, or worst not knowing that they had forever left us forever.

J.P. Morgan's act of unprofessionalism (An opinion)

Check the link in Yahoo News

An opinion as it is said in the title, what is posted in Yahoo displaying a cover letter of an applicant in J.P. Morgan with a title "laughed at" is an act of unprofessionalism.

Even if the name of the applicant and other information "redacted as necessary" was not in the online news it was still unethical for a company to not respect and not handle a cover letter, or with a resume, confidentially. It was even distributed among an entire team, and worst, have it reached to "more than a dozen firms". No matter how less humility or exaggerated truthfulness is in the presentation, professionalism is never a situational. (And I agree with the people's comments on the news)

A cover letter is an opinion, perspective, and advertisement to oneself. It includes an aim to surpass other candidates aiming for the same desired position. It should be between HR and the applicant, and not with the rest of world, no matter what styles the owner of the resume took just to make its own exceptional.

Confidentiality laws does not include, however, this case; disrespectfulness to your parents is not in the law as well. Open-mindedness should not reach to the point that your brain would fall off.

(Don't get me wrong, i'm also amused with the cover letter...hmmm...seriously?)

Facebook Onlife (Online Life)

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It was November 2008, when a colleague of mine in Malaysia asked me if I have a Facebook account. I asked back if that was the thing like Friendster? He said yes and I never got interested.

That was my first week in that Malaysian office. The second week, after all those lunches with the new colleagues, and dinners, most of them asked me to get myself a new Facebook account and add them. I said to myself, oh my goodness; I don’t have time for that. But then, to blend in with them, I made a new one. Then i added their emails and as Facebook friends, then got interested to see their backgrounds, stories, and such, over Facebook.

It was really a simple site way back then, easy to explore and browse on. As a software engineer, i prefer efficiency over features. It was a cool site just what a usual Facebook user wanted. Going back to the present, 2012, my added friends have already increased, though not much, because i only added friends which are people that I really know of. I have over 100 pending requests with the same please-remind-me-of-you-just-when-did-we-meet expression.

But there was this frustration lately when using Facebook which i noticed before the mandatory Timeline was up. There was this real-time activity on the right side that updates you with friends' activities in every stressful second. I would say, wow nice feature but no thanks. Oh please stop updating me with these things, i am not interested, let them have those activities without me knowing. For me, its more of an annoyance than a benefit. Secondly, it hugs bandwidth, too bad if you keep that open while you are browsing on some sites.

Lets talk about privacy management. Facebook now lets you set exclusivity of your posts and photos. Ill say wow that's great. But to some extent, can I just let them be shown to everyone since i have already filtered the friends that i have accepted. And some of my friends or so called friends would say, "hey have you seen that girl's photo in the bar?", ill say, "what photo?", and he's like. "wait i think i need to add you to the people who can see it, my grandma is in my Facebook so I have to set it exclusive". Oh, is that micromanagement of privacy really a need? why not make it an option rather than incorporate it into the usual simplicity?

Lets go tackle expressions. I can almost hear this everyday; "Hey come on dude, Like my post". Or "Haven’t you seen it in my post?". Even one of my bosses asked me, "Oh you were included in the invitation but I've announced it in Facebook". What the F just happen to people. Facebook without doubt has become part of life but come on its not an essential part. I have a real life outside and I log on if only I have time to sit and browse Facebook. The worst thing is 'poking' now becomes an etiquette. I have to poke back if I am being poked or someone will say, "Hey dude, poke him back or he will think you are ignoring him. Its been an hour already since he poked you."

Lets now tackle Facebook updates. People here mostly as I have observed, has made Facebook an alter ego. There was once this friend-in-Facebook of mine. He committed suicide last year. Shock? of course. Me? super shock. If I am going to browse his Facebook profile, i can say he has a wonderful life, he is outgoing, loveable, likeable, active and full of dreams. But in reality there is no way as the same as his real life. In short he is the opposite. In my interpretation, he made his Facebook account an alter reality, an ego boosting world, a world he wished it to be where there are his long distance friends as his audience, and would applaud him for his posts. People in Facebook seemed to post selected, filtered events of their life, of course its a privacy thing, but it became lately a major source of approval, an essential source of ego altering beast. I did this, I did that but no one likes it, and say I was not appreciated by anyone. It became an issue when someone post a life reality quote and only got 2 LIKES and Comments, but someone an alpha female would post "Went shopping" would get 900 likes and 900 comments. I can always hear someone saying, "Oh why did you LIKE her picture in bikini? I’m your girlfriend. And you didn’t even changed your status to In Relationship". Oh come on honey, you guys did not start your relationship online. The thing is people would post Facebook like saying "hey this is my life, look how successful I am, happy, active." And some people would say, "look he is so happy and active. and I’m lesser than that. what have I become." People, wake up! The moment you get into this, pause and stop, and say to yourself, "Ill go read Desiderata." But seriously, get a real social life, not onlife (online life). Facebook is just a social networking site. If you wont, someday Facebook might shut down there servers and you're dead.

Lastly, the dreaded Timeline. I hope Facebook designers considered the 80-20 rule. It is called Pareto principle. Read it in wiki. Basically, it means 80% of your output comes from 20% of input. To apply it, for example, in a room, you only need 20% of what you have in your room to execute 80% of your activities within it. In an internet browser for instance, you only use 20% of a browser's functions to do 80% of your browsing needs. And it applies to everything. Now the Facebook layout, and the Timeline, just check how much features presented to you in a Facebook page you actually need? That is why simplicity is a word. And information overload is also a word. No further statement your honor.

So as a conclusion, don’t deactivate your Facebook, as what I have said, make it a part of your life but not an essential part. Make it a source of information because information is an advantage. Make it an input of your daily decision making but filter it because it is manipulated information. It is a fantasy world, so don’t live on it. You are a person and is way too important to be corrupted by it. Live with its name as a superficial book of fantasy.

With regards to my friend who ended his life, I don’t have plan to UN-friend him in Facebook, or he may visit me in ghostly form and say, “Dude why have you UN-friend me in Facebook, are we not friends?” Nyaaaaahhh !!!