Dear Parents

 Dear Parents, Let it be a Gift, not a Repayment

I’ve seen it in so many families—including my own:
That quiet, deep hope that “Once our child graduates from college, our life will finally get better.”

And honestly? I get it. That kind of hope is real and valid—especially when you’ve worked so hard and sacrificed so much. Long hours at work. Sleepless nights. Saying no to things you wanted, just to say yes to your child’s future.

But here’s something I’ve learned along the way:
Hope is beautiful, but pressure is heavy.

When we expect our kids to repay us by becoming the solution to all our problems… it becomes a silent kind of burden. And that’s not what love should feel like.

Because life doesn’t always play out the way we imagined.

Some children get married early.
Some find jobs that barely support themselves.
Some end up with partners who aren’t supportive of helping extended family.
And heartbreakingly, some are taken from us far too soon.

It hurts, I know. Because we give everything to our kids. But maybe we need to remind ourselves: sending them to school isn’t a business move—it’s an act of love.

Our children aren’t our investment plans. They’re not our saviors.
They’re people, with their own dreams, paths, and struggles too.

Now don’t get me wrong—I’ve seen so many kids give back, even when they didn’t have much. And that kind of love? It’s beautiful. But it should come from gratitude, not guilt.

Let’s raise children who can dream big, not children who carry the full weight of our dreams.

Give them the freedom to grow. To thrive. To rise—not for us, but for themselves. And if they choose to lift us along the way? Let it be a gift, not a repayment.

The Bible puts it so simply and beautifully:

“Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him.”
— Psalm 127:3 (NIV)

They are blessings. Not tools. Not tickets out of poverty.

So to parents:
Let’s love them without conditions.
Let’s support them without strings.
Let’s plant seeds of love—not pressure—and trust that one day, they’ll bloom in their own time.

God bless us all.

Lending Turns to Ghosting

 

Lending Turns to Ghosting - A Gentle Reminder for the Heart and Wallet

We’ve all had that moment—someone close asks to borrow money. They say it’s “just for now,” and because you trust them, you say yes. Then suddenly… radio silence.

No follow-up. No updates. Not even a “Sorry, still working on it.” Just ghosted.

And it’s not just the money that hurts—it’s the feeling of being taken for granted.

But here’s the thing: holding onto that frustration won’t bring the money back. It just drains your peace. Sometimes, you have to accept it, let it go, and move forward. Forgiving doesn’t mean you’re okay with it—it means you’re choosing peace over resentment. After all, you were an instrument of blessing on someone’s tough day… haha, di ba?

Sa mga nang-utang: Communication is everything. Kahit wala pa pambayad, magparamdam. A simple message shows respect. Huwag puro seenzone—your dignity is worth more than the money you ghosted on.

Sa mga nagpautang: Lend only what you’re willing to let go. Set boundaries. Guard your heart and your wallet. And no matter what—choose to forgive.

Money comes and goes. But trust? That’s harder to earn back. Be kind, but don’t be careless.

Learn. Forgive. Grow.

Hey Maam, Sir

 Hey Maam, Sir, You're Not in Class Anymore 😅

Ever run into a teacher outside of school who still acts like... well, a teacher? They’ll correct your grammar while you’re ordering coffee, give you life advice you didn’t ask for, or give you the look like you're about to be sent to detention—for being five minutes late.

It’s kind of funny... until it’s not.

Teachers are amazing. They shape minds, guide futures, and deal with chaos daily. But once you're out in the real world—newsflash!—we’re all on the same level. Nobody’s a student, nobody’s handing in homework, and no one wants a surprise lecture on why their outfit is “inappropriate for learning.”

So here’s a gentle reminder to our beloved educators: take off the classroom hat once you clock out. Outside of school, people want conversations, not corrections. Respect goes both ways.

Offer your insights when invited. Share stories, not scoldings. And hey, it’s okay to just be you—not “Sir,” “Ma’am,” or “Prof.”

Because outside those classroom walls, we’re all just humans trying to enjoy our coffee without a pop quiz. 😉

Burn outs

What I Learned From Watching Someone Burn Out

Let me tell you a little story about a former officemate of mine—let’s call him Mark. He was that guy in the office who always seemed to have everything under control. First one in, last one out. Always willing to help. Never said no. Super dependable, the kind of employee every company wants.

At first, we all thought, “Wow, this guy’s on fire!” But looking back now, it was more like he was burning out.

Mark worked late almost every night. While the rest of us were logging off, grabbing dinner, or watching Netflix, he was still there—glued to his desk. He skipped breaks, ignored weekends, and even brought his laptop on vacation. He’d say things like, “Just need to finish a few things” or “I’ll rest after this project.” But the “few things” never ended, and the projects just kept coming.

After a while, he started to change. He looked tired all the time. Snappy. Quiet. Not his usual self. Then one random Friday, he submitted his resignation. No drama. No complaints. Just… done.

I was shocked. But honestly? I wasn’t surprised.

That was the moment it really hit me: burnout doesn’t always come with warning signs. Sometimes, it builds up slowly, until one day, you just can’t take it anymore.

Mark’s story stuck with me. It made me realize how easy it is to fall into that trap of thinking we always have to say yes, always go the extra mile, always be “on.” But here’s the thing—we’re not machines. We’re people. And people need rest.

If there’s one thing I learned from Mark’s experience, it’s this: you have to manage your time before your time manages you. It’s not about being lazy or slacking off—it’s about being smart. Setting boundaries. Listening to your body. Knowing when to pause.

You don’t need to work yourself sick just to prove your worth. Because let’s face it—if you suddenly left tomorrow, the company would find someone else. That’s the harsh reality. We’re all replaceable at work, but we’re not replaceable in our lives.

So now, I take my breaks seriously. I turn off my work notifications after hours. I protect my weekends. I’ve learned that saying “no” doesn’t make you difficult—it makes you healthy.

To anyone reading this who feels like they’re heading down the same path as Mark—please, check in with yourself. Take that day off. Set those boundaries. Don’t wait for burnout to make the decision for you.

Because your mental health isn’t just important—it’s everything. Take care guys!